YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE IN CHARGE OF YOUR LIFE
As long as you have someone else to blame you can believe that you have no responsibility for your life.
For instance, you have an online business and your income is decreasing every day. The easiest thing to do is to blame others sites for stealing your costumers.
Admitting that you are not offering a good service is hard, because it would mean that you are wrong and you would need to change if you want to improve.
Instead, if you keep blaming others you can easily stay the same as long as you want.
Now I have to say something that might hurts but needs to be said:
You are broke is because of you, you don’t have a social life is because of you, you are overweight is because of you.
Everything you see or don’t see around yourself is caused by the choices you have made in the past, the choices you are making and the choices you will make.
Admitting that you are the only one accountable for your life is the first step to change it for the better.
“Money is a result, wealth is a result, health is a result, illness is a result, your weight is a result. We live in a world of cause and effect.” (Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker page 14)
YOU CAN’T HELP OTHER PEOPLE GET A BETTER LIFE
When I first discovered about self-improvement I thought that my friends and family would find it life changing as well.
I mean there are plenty of books, videos and blogs sharing ideas to improve your life in every single aspect.
I thought to myself how is it possible that such revolutionizing ideas are not on the TV or even taught in school?
Can you imagine Elliot Hulse, Tyler from Real Social Dynamics, Leo from actualized.org and all the other guys making a good impact Sunday evening on prime-time? Wouldn’t it be cool? Well is not going to happen anytime soon.
When I tried to talk to my friends about it they were shocked, they were questioning everything that I said, they were even making fun of my willingness to improve.
Finally, I understood that I couldn’t change their life if they didn’t want to.
The only thing you can do to help your family and friends is to become successful in the first place.
If they are smart enough they will ask you how were you able to achieve such amazing results then you can share your insights with them and help them.
“As we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”(Marianne Williamson)
YOU DON’T WANT TO CHANGE
Deep down you don’t want to change because we still respond to cave men instincts.
Imagine a tribe of 10 people, thousands of years ago, if a cave men wanted to explore the rest of the world outside of his tribe he had to face life by himself and this meant for sure troubles, being eaten by a lion or others wild beast, and probably death.
Nature has developed a process called homeostasis that prevents organisms to change when is not necessary.
Your DNA doesn’t care if you have one dollar in the bank or one hundred thousand, all that cares about is keeping you alive.
You are sabotaging yourself to keep you safe.
For the caveman part of your brain if you are still breathing there is no need to make any change.
Too many times we forget that in the end we are animals and we respond to basic instincts.
The cave man part of your brain works like a thermostat, each time you are changing too much, it reaches the maximum level, then you unconsciously start sabotaging yourself to not put your own life at “risk”.
When you start being aware of this process each time you notice you are getting too far out of your comfort zone and your internal thermostat is going to freak out you should stop and rest for a while.
Each time that you stop and restart your set point is going to be a little bit higher and your comfort zone is going to expand. (Don’t use it as an excuse to take a week off and chain watch Game Of Thrones, as always, use your brain.)
“Homeostasis doesn’t distinguish between what you would call change for the better and change for the worse. It resists all change.” (Mastery by George Leonard page 111)
SUCCESS REQUIRES TIME AND HARD WORK
Become a trader and make four thousand dollars from home, lose weight in one week, without sweating, just swallow the last burning fat pill, never get rejected again and solve all your relationship problems reading the ultimate guide to attraction, does this sound familiar to you?
Just have a look around, you will find this kind of marketing everywhere.
The media are always claiming to solve our problems overnight we just need to pay, the idea is give me your money I will solve your problems and fix you….that is bullshit.
Change is a proactive process nobody can do it for you.
Success is difficult requires effort, focus, time and practice. Who the fuck would want to go through a difficult process when there are people selling you a solution for money?
We have been brainwashed to believe in the magic pill because a product with such marketing is going to sell way more.
We buy it because the human mind has a tendency to go for what offers huge rewards with the least effort, but it doesn’t work that way.
Now I have a good news and a bad news:
The good news is that you can achieve whatever you want the bad news is that you need to work your ass off.
“I want you to know in your bones that your only path to success is trough a continuum of mundane, unsexy, unexciting, and sometimes difficult daily disciplines compounded over time.” (The Compound Effect By Darren Hardy page 20)
HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE
Our society is constantly harassing us with advertising trying to sell us products.
Look around yourself and you will find the football star trying to sell us a car, the singer trying to sell us a perfume, everywhere, constantly.
The message is clear, if you buy this product you will be cool and happy, the saddest part is that we believe it.
We believe that once we are finally able to afford a BMW we will be happy, and for a while, we are satisfied but then our craving comes back again.
We start wanting more, we look around and we see someone driving a Ferrari, we want more and more.
There is always going to be someone with more money with more friends with a better car and so on, if we keep looking outside for sources of happiness we will never find sustainable ones.
Happiness is a choice, a self-sustained process, caused by what is going on inside of you.
“It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.” (Agnes Repplier)
NEGATIVE EVENTS ARE KEY FOR YOUR GROWTH
I wouldn’t be who I am today if I wouldn’t have gone through all the hard times I had to face. You will have to overcome many problems in your life and that is fundamental for your growth, how could you improve without challenges?
In Fact you can grow only when you step into the unknown, when you challenge yourself, your believes, everything you know, and leave your comfort zone.
In a world where everything is positive there wouldn’t be improvement. Negative events are part of life and you should learn to perceive them as opportunities in disguise.
Whenever something happen you can resist the change or you can go with the flow and use it to propel you forward. Resistance in life is never a good idea.
“It is only out of danger and difficulty that you can rise at all.” (The 50th Law by 50 Cent and Robert Greene page 80)
YOU ARE GOING TO DIE
There is just one thing that you know for sure, someday you are going to die.
No matter what you will achieve, no matter how much money, how many friends you will have, you are going to die.
Why are you not living life by your own rules? For all we know you are going to have just one chance, one opportunity, make the most out of it.
Why are you taking life so seriously if you already know that everything is going to end?
Death is your best friend, the great equalizer, you have the chance to give everything the right importance, someone just stole your car and you are able to not get pissed off, you won the lottery and you stay humble.
“Death always delivers. Death is your only true friend, the only friend that will never abandon you and that no one can take away. It slices through every lie, ridicules every belief, mocks every vanity and reduces ego to absurdity. He’s sitting with you right now. If you want to know something, ask him. Death doesn’t lie.” (Spiritual Enlightenment The Damnedest Thing by Jed Mckenna)
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